I lived the first ten years of my life in Bucharest, Romania. I attended middle school in southern France and high school in Indiana, USA. Recently, I graduated from The University of Connecticut after three university transfers.
I’ve had my fair share of cultural, social, financial, and psychological changes.
To start 2021, I’m sharing with GrasshoppHer the essential parts of starting anew.
When facing change, you might feel like you are losing your identity, being attacked, or that everything that you have become attached to is in peril. You must find out what makes you "you". Famed philosopher, writer, and speaker Alan Watts introduced a fantastic analogy for human identity as part of his lecture “The Veil of Thoughts.” He compares the human identity to a rope that is made of different materials lengthwise. If a knot is tied and moved down along the rope, will it still be the same knot or a different one? It could be cotton at one point, and at another, it could very well be silk or nylon.
Alan Watts continues to note that humans are like “a whirlpool in a stream. The stream is doing this consistent whirlpooling [that] we always recognize—like at Niagara: the whirlpool is one of the sights, but the water is always moving on. And we are just like that, and everything is like that.”
Even though it may be hard to identify what makes you who “you” are, it is comforting and inspiring to know that it is not attached to anything solely physical.
The way you approach new challenges often dictates if you overcome them or not. Building up your emotional repertoire with the knowledge that you entered new situations with courage and excitement is just like building a resume—it gives you the emotional credentials to tackle new challenges and new beginnings. As nature promotes the species that are most adaptive to change, so does society for humans.